What about when someone consistently will not talk about or acknowledge an negatives that have happened between them? But expresses deep resentment, anger about them in front of the people she feels anger towards? But then continues to be obviously hurt by the withdrawl from the relationship of the other person(s)? We have tried to be direct, she won't talk but then demands we give her the fruits of a great relationship that we don't actually have? How do we address the piles of resentments we each have? Positive gestures from each party are always undercut by the stuff that has gone before but can't be successfully resolved.