Dear Mandy, I have not set this blog up as a discussion forum; however, I am generally interested in comments and often end up adding people's material here. What you can do is post a comment, just as you did. Most people go to an article that drew their attention and post it there. As you can check out, I usually respond fairly quickly. You can write to me directly at al@turtlecounseling.com. If we generate a discussion, I may post it later as an article. Some people have ended up talking with me by phone. I do limit this, so that I have enough time in my life, by charging my office rate of $80 an hour. (A ten minute phone call costs nothing.) You can also join one of the excellent discussion groups that I am aware of and that often refer people to my blog. They are: Marriage Builders at http://www.marriagebuilders.com MidLife Crisis Forum at http://midlifecrisisforum.com Good luck.