My son and his new bride.

Learn what to do in between

Here and There
Hints for using this site

25th Anniversary and renewal of our wedding vows.

Re: Reliable Membership: The Essay
by Anonymous
Hi Al, Your article is very interesting, lots of food-for-thought. You say that "All humans require reliable, sufficient and not excessive, contact with other humans... Older humans can live alone, but in what I call a “degraded condition.” " What I'm currently wondering, is how to compare the 'degradation' of my current relationship, which is not 'reliably' secure and loving - despite counselling, an Imago weekend workshop, workbooks, and 2 Imago therapists - with the 'degraded' condition that I would be in if I were to end the relationship and be single once again? I understand your point about all human beings requiring contact with others; this is the yearning that most of us feel to find a partner when we don't have one. I have felt that too, when single. But right now my partner's behaviour, and my behaviour, the bickering, dischord, arguments and fights is tangibly degrading me / the quality of my life. (And hers, no doubt.) I feel I've done everything I can. Is it time to leave?
Post comment:
Format Type: 
  Convert newlines
  Receive comment notifications for this article
Subject: 
   
insert bold tags insert italic tags insert underline tags insert strikethough tags insert link insert blockquote tags
Comment: 
Comment verification:

Please enter the text you see inside the graphic to post your comment:
You are not currently logged in. If you would like your user information to be displayed with your comment, please enter your login information below.
Login information:
Username: 
Password: 
If you would like to post contact information on your comment, please enter your information into the optional fields below:
Contact information:
Name: 
URL:  example: http://yourdomain.com
Email: 
Please note: email will not be displayed on the site, only for the blog owner. If logged in, URL will only be used.
   
Search
Recent Visitors
Al Turtle - Wed 17 Mar 2010 04:58 PM PDT 
kevin123 - Tue 16 Mar 2010 11:43 PM PDT 
kez - Mon 15 Mar 2010 04:07 AM PDT 
ver44 - Thu 11 Mar 2010 08:07 AM PST 
Barb - Thu 11 Mar 2010 07:43 AM PST 
HELLOOOOOOOOOOOO - Wed 10 Mar 2010 12:36 AM PST 
Surku - Mon 08 Mar 2010 11:51 AM PST 
Max123 - Sun 07 Mar 2010 11:20 PM PST 
TC - Wed 03 Mar 2010 05:59 AM PST 
Mathew Farney - Wed 03 Mar 2010 12:54 AM PST 
Login
User name:
Password:
Remember me