I'm not entirely sure whether I'm the chaser or the avoider. I would have said I was the avoider but I'm beginning to suspect that I'm the chaser- or possibly at some point our roles reversed. My husband of 4 years began to let me know he wasn''t happy with our marriage a few weeks ago. I immediately went into salvage mode and tried to arrange things for us to do to make us revive that spark. Over the past few years I noticed when he became needy I would push him away. In fact it disgusted me when he got clingy. However all my efforts to rekindle that spark seem to have failed because tonight he packed some things and went to stay with a friend saying he needed some space. He has already called twice and I have decided not to answer even though it is really hard. Am I doing the right thing?