Oh God! I have spent the last while reading thru all of your articles and recognised myself and partner throughout all of it...the clinger and avoider -these episodes of disaster have happened twice before up to a week at atime because he needed space.. and again not learning!/realizing my patterns, even with therapy! I have done it agin, and he has now stated we are not seeing one another "at this time".. I am in a sate of terror like you stated, can't think, sleep, eat, all of the above scared to death this is it between us-.. I WILL DO all of what you have suggested from this moment on, and if God's willing, it will come back together, that's all I can hope for... thank-you for your work, it's helped me tonite somewhat.. L.S.