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Listen to, and/or read, the whole (unabridged) Map of Relationships

by Al Turtle on Sat 25 Mar 2006 05:05 AM PST | Permanent Link

I’ve posted the unabridged Map of Relationships in both written script and narrated versions. Print the Map itself, as a chart, and use it as you read or listen along. Click here to print the entire script in PDF format. Click here for summaries and other articles on The Map.

Part I: Introduction (Listen or download free in MP3: 13 minutes long)

Why did I do this?
Why listen to me?
Who am I?
Why do you need a Map?
What value is it?

Part II: Blind Alleys (Listen or download in MP3: 16 1/2 minutes long)

What is wrong about Divorce? Why it doesn’t work?
What is wrong about Dating Services? Why they don’t work?
What is wrong about individual therapy? Why it destroys Marriage?
Why marriage therapists are always getting divorced?
What is a Great Marriage?
Who are Successful Couples?

Part III: Part One of the Map (Listen or download in MP3: 20 minutes long)

What is Romantic Love?
How does it compare with Vintage Love?
Why do Romantic and Vintage Love feel so good?
Why does Romance always end?
What is the Power Struggle? Why do we fight?
Why doesn’t this work?
What are your choices?
What does Divorce get you into? Door #3

Part IV: Relationship Framework: Listen or download in MP3: 20 minutes long)

What is behind relationships
What are we taught in our Traditional Families?
What does our DNA tell us to look for?
The Five Components of our Biological Dream.
What is the difference between our Families and our Biological Dream?
What is really going on in Romance?
What is really going on in the Power Struggle?
What is really going on in Divorce? (Door #3)

Part V: The Other Doors (Listen or download in MP3: 11 1/2 minutes long)

If not Divorce, what then?
The University of Life leads to Vintage Love (Door #1)
How long does it take to get to Vintage Love?
Why do most couples lie down and give up the Dream? (Door #2)
How do many couples come back to Life?
How is Vintage Love different from the majority of couples?
Are you in the Power Struggle or have you Given Up?
The Last Detail: What is really going on that causes so much trouble with Marriage?
Find your own path through the Map?
Where are you now on the Map?

Part VI: Questions and Answers (Listen or download in MP3: 14 minutes long)

What is the University of Life like?
What are the courses?
What are the Five Main Problems to face?
Do you need to work with a Partner or can you do it alone?

Part VII: Final Points (Listen or download free in MP3: 7 1/2 minutes long)

Why I really like people who Divorce?
Why I really like people in Romance?
Why I even like people who are fighting?
The three chances we all face to being fulling alive.
The Future.
My wishes for you.

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Re: Listen to, and/or read, the whole (unabridged) Map of Relationships

by Tim on Tue 25 Sep 2007 05:30 AM PDT | Profile | Permanent Link

Hi Al,

I must say it was a long read but a worthwhile one. I can see a lot of my relationship here. I just need to find a way to get my other half to open her mind and let her walls down enough to read it. I think she could use it as much if not more than me, as she is at her 3rd 'divorce' with me, while this will be my first. I am currently the clinger, trying to hold on and make it 'better', while she no longer loves me and seems to be running away from our problems, needing her space and me out of the house because 'It's over.'

I want for us to work towards that vintage love, but would be happy for just being able to get along at the moment. I am planning to leave a printed copy of the whole 'Map of Relationships' somewhere she can stumble across it, and hope it catches her eye enough to start reading it. I have enrolled in this University of Life with the aim of getting great grades, and will hopefully be able to pass on to you, my teacher, how it all goes. Crossing my fingers, toes, and everything else though that the woman I still love and I can both make through to the vintage love I believe we can still find with each other.

Thanks for the articles, and the hope they are giving me that I can do something to improve my current relationship, as hard and painful as the situation currently is.

Re: Re: Listen to, and/or read, the whole (unabridged) Map of Relationships

by Al Turtle on Wed 26 Sep 2007 07:27 AM PDT | Profile | Permanent Link

Thanks Tim, for dropping by. Glad that my discoveries were helpful. You might want to check out my articles on Guilt, Getting to Work, and "It only takes one to make a Marriage..." in reference to your situation.

Years ago I read Harville Hendrix's book, (Getting the Love You Want) and was blown away by it. I red-lined all the important passages - something I hadn't done since college years ago. I was so amazed, that I handed it to my wife to read. My memory is that she threw it across the room. Some months later (that was her timing) she bought her own copy, without the redlines, and read it and was blown away. Then we both bought copies and sent them to our grown children. That incident marked the beginning of this great journey in our lives. It also showed the whole issue of synchronizing our progress. She moved/moves at a different pace (different drummer). Well hello, Al! Duh!

My articles tend to be long or short depending on the topic. The Map is the longest, I think, because it was really the script for a planned DVD (never realized). It had to be complete in a bigger way than other articles. Most of my articles write themselves once I have completed the topic in my head and presented it to a couple of hundred couples, watched their reactions and then refined. Amazingly, once written, I have not rewritten much - they seem complete.

Looking back I think the MAP's biggest contribution was giving me a new and very positive attitude toward the seemingly frivilousness of romance, the bitter pain of divorce, and the angry struggles of couples. I love 'em all. It also gave me a new appreciation for people who have doggedly tried marrying (living together) over and over. I think it nice to "know where I/people am/are."

My best wishes to you and your partner. By the way, leading her into the University of Life is the only way to go, I think.

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