It’s time again to play “WHAT ARE THEY READING?” Instead of writing a book, I decided to make my “notes” available, via Internet, to anybody. And instead of marketing, I have used word-of-mouth or touch-of-keyboard to spread awareness. I have posted 182 articles here in the four years since March 2005. During last month (October 2009), each day an average of 303 different visitors read 1104 articles, and downloaded 103 megabytes worth of my articles and pictures. That’s a monthly total of over 7300 visitors downloading over 34,000 articles. I salute you.
The top read articles seem to be becoming a fairly steady set. The very “top of the top” is that article on What to do when he/she leaves. I imagine 745 hurting people came here last month, while their partners, 745 also hurting people, were elsewhere.
While I've been sharing and watching what people do with my writings I have come to certain simple conclusions.
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He/she leaves you cuz the relationship you have with them sucks. If it takes someone leaving to get your attention, so be it. Learn quickly. Fix it.
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If you don't learn how a) to PreValidate, b) remove MasterTalk c) learn the verbal sharing skills taught quickly by Mirroring then you are screwed.
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Use skills that build safety and get rid of habits that threaten.
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Make sure you have easy skills of being together and being apart.
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Take turns being appropriately selfish.
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Learn to like your beliefs and make plenty of room for others to disagree.
Sprinkled throughout are a series of MP3 downloadable audio files that you can buy, drop onto your Ipod or a CD and listen in your car. Also you can find me on Facebook, a new group called Relationship Wisdom, and I do consult with people by phone.
You can donate to my site, if you wish. For you computer types, think of it as shareware or “Pay It Forward.” This includes a link to a book being written by a friend based on his journey through my website. He’s even offering draft copies. Enjoy.
There are several helpful online communities that seem to be places to share your thoughts and struggles about relationships. I congratulate them all. Also, I encourage those of you who are really grasping what I write, to consider sharing what you have learned and to work with others.
The following is the ranking of my top 25 articles. Thanks to all of you for reading, learning something, for sharing it with others, and for referring people here. I hope what I have shared is helpful to you. If it has been, you might let me know. If you want me to focus new writing on some area, please let me know. I have a list. Also I may use your priorities to re-write or expand some of my more popular articles. Drop me an email at al@turtlecounseling.com.
