Recently I gave a 3–hour presentation at a conference on Domestic Violence. The title was "Remediating Bullies and Their Makers: A different look at Domestic Violence." Here is the background and one of the Powerpoint presentations.    more »

“So, why are you voting for Obama,” I get asked this a lot. It has come up for several months, since I decided to share my preference in this fall’s election. These are my thoughts. They belong to me and yours should differ. If you don't like politics, skip this altogether.    more »

This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.   more »

I think that "Being Dialogical" is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.   more »

This is a writeup of an application of Communologue in a project that I completed 2003-2004.   more »

A conversation with a relationship therapist about avoiding becoming a Bully.    more »

By Donald L. Gibbon. Northern Idaho sounds like it should be about as far away from 21st century social ills as you could get and still have access to modern America’s social benefits. Coeur d’Alene, known to demographers and government bureaucrats as CdA, has a population of only about 35,000, but it’s still the largest town in the state north of Boise, some 460 long miles to the south.   more »

Some more thoughts on Guiding a Communologue Group. A new guideline added on Nov 1, '06.   more »

A list of interventions that can be used to create and maintain a dialogical group atmosphere. A new guideline added on Nov 27, '07.   more »

This is an audio file of my thoughts about guiding Communologue, listing and explaining the interventions I believe are important. ...   more »

About guiding people into dialogical space.   more »

Notes for a Class on Guiding Dialogue   more »

Thoughts on the Role of a Communologue Facilitator.   more »

Strange that last night these came to me. Another new way of looking at "being together in durable peacefulness." Empower whatever group you are in to do the following.   more »

This is a letter I wrote to the Peace Project concerning my group's self-defined standards of Communologue.    more »

An open letter (probably with lots of typos) that I wrote to any and all Imago Therapists during my vacation in the mountains in early September 2005. In it I pose an important question. Is what I am doing "Imago?"   more »

Sometimes people get the impression that I want all bullies to go away. But I really think they are valuable. Where would we all be without them? Now, what am I talking about!?    more »

I am currently leading a group based on Communologue principles. These are the core of dialogical skills originally formulated in Imago Relationship, but recently expanded by the Imago Peace Project to include critical factors missing in Imago. Members of the Imago Peace Project (http://imagopeaceproject.org) can teach you these Communologue skills.    more »

A chart of how normal discourse collapses thru arguing, thru violence, into the form of communication we call WARFARE.    more »

When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not. Here's my essay on this situation.   more »

This is a way of scoring to see if you were experiencing dialogue or just normal chaotic conversation.   more »

To really grasp Diversity, I think people need to have an image, a model, that makes sense of Understanding and Validation. I have used this model for three years and it works. It defines "making sense", "understanding", "validation" and that most valuable of skills, "PreValidation".   more »

The choices that two or more people have when they come together. Based on the experience of lots and lots of couples who have learned, what the average citizen hasn't, that arguing doesn't work.   more »

I use these three terms (Master, Slave, Friend) to refer to the three positions from which and to which communication can be addressed. These are similar to the positions in Transactional Analysis of Parent, Child, and Adult. No one is a Master. They just speak, and perhaps think, from the Master position. No one is a Slave. They just speak from the Slave position. MasterTalk seems extremely easy to identify in conversation and writing.   more »